Found this text from an article and its soooo true. The ugly truth, really. Enjoy ladies (and guys).
It is a miserable feeling when you invest your time and emotions into someone and remain unsure of where you stand.
When a girl has to question how a guy feels, the answer is most likely along the lines of, “He likes you, but probably not enough.”
It lingers in the backs of our minds: He can say so many sweet things, be so open with us, and yet, he cannot give us what we want, which is usually a committed relationship.
Of course, there are possible explanations to justify his behavior: Maybe he is under a lot of pressure at work; maybe he was hurt by an ex; maybe he is terrified of commitment. He likes you enough, but he is afraid of your extreme enthusiasm, persistence and clinginess.
He wants something deeper than a physical relationship, but at the same time, he enjoys playing the field.
Despite all of the possible reasons, if a guy says he does not want to be in a relationship, he means it. Surely, he cares about you, enjoys his time with you and does like you. But, it’s simply not enough.
Maybe he is incapable of liking someone past a certain point. Maybe he just likes to have control over his own emotions.
Most women will see this as a reflection of themselves. They think if only they did more for him, or if only they were prettier, the result would be different.
The sad truth, however, is nothing you do or say will change the way he feels. To make it your problem will only cause unnecessary hurt.
It is understandably hard to remove yourself from the situation after you have invested so much time and energy; it’s hard to accept things as they are. You will focus on what you want to hear and disregard all the red flags because you want the relationship to go somewhere.
You will cling to the slight glimpse of hope. You will rationalize reasons to stay in this ambiguous relationship.
However, you will only end up hurt; you’ll be left standing there, trying to figure out how a woman like you could ignore so many blatant red flags and why this person let someone like you go. You feel like he took something from you and left a void you’ll now have to fill.
He took advantage of you. He knew you were invested, and he never stopped you.
What makes it even worse is he was never on the same page as you. He made it safe for you to feel vulnerable with him; you thought he understood where you were coming from. You are stuck in a situation where you are driven to uncover the truth.
Instead of grasping something you desire so much, set reasonable goals. If he does not call you back, it is probably for your own good.
We want to soothe ourselves and to believe we are loved, despite all the external evidence that points to otherwise. We feel like we have compromised our values, which is absolutely devastating.
Though the ideal solution is still up in the air, at least we know where the problem is. There is no quick fix.
But, you should come to realize it was not you — it was him. If he likes you, and I mean really likes you, it will be obvious because he will make the effort. If the absence of the obvious is prolonged, there you have it.